It’s been a while since I’ve posted something, so tonight – let’s see if I can come up with anything meaningful.
This week I’m going to Sydney again, and if you’ve followed this blog at all, or even if you’re bored – go check it out – it’s about the first time travelling as a transgender woman – by myself no less.
Each time I’ve gone it’s gotten easier and easier – the hardest part of this trip is trying to work out what I’m going to talk about, and possibly when am I going to get a change to go to the bathroom, it’s going to be a jampacked trip.
I’m going to focus on support with my talk. We are supporting an organisation that helps transgender women get back into the work force, as sadly there is still a lot of stigma about being trans in the workplace. One day we will find out it’s not contagious, and you can’t catch transgenderism….
I was going to say I was fortunate that I didn’t need their support – because my work supported me, but then I drilled down into my transition a little, and realised – just the amount of support was given to me.
I had 4 HR people, 5 managers, and a handful of people who knew about my transgender to get me through my announcement.
I then had the entire site who supported me – sure some probably think I’m deluded, mentally unstable, or crazy, but they have still thought – well she’s a person – I can deal with that.
From there I posted in my companys’ LGBTIQ community – as I thought – I’m going to lose my job, maybe I can get some support for that, and it just exploded.
I was then supported on a national level, and have been involved in a number of projects that I never would of dreamed of.
Supporting someone isn’t just simply gushing about how brave you are, what a role model or anything like that. Supporting someone who is transgender is actually really easy. You liked the person before they transitioned? Treat them the same way, but remember to use the changed name, and pronouns. That’s all I ever ask of anyone. I also understand that sometimes it will pop out wrong at times, and that is ok to me – as long as it’s not malicious, or all the time.
Don’t tell me you support transgender and bitch about us behind our backs, and don’t say “Oh it’s going to take time, stop correcting me”.
Don’t tell me you support me, but never want to see me, or talk to me. That’s not showing someone you support them, it’s saying – “I don’t want to hurt you, but I also think you’re worthless”.
But do you know what support does build? Confidence. I wouldn’t be able to go to Sydney without all the people who have supported me.
The thing is, that support has also allowed me to support others, and that’s what I wanted to get by being as visible as I’ve been.